Something is holding you back from living your best life

I work with people who are tired of letting perfectionism, not-good-enoughness, and other bullshit get in their way. They know what type of life they want, but they can’t seem to make it happen. It feels like something is blocking their path to happiness and they just can’t seem to figure out what it is. They often worry that it might be them.

The people I work with are often driven, insightful, and know that there’s more to life. Before coming to therapy, they often wonder if they are the reason for their dissatisfaction. If they are asking for too much out of life. They wonder why it seems like everyone around them has their shit together and they feel totally out of the loop. Even though they know that social media is a highlight reel, they can’t help but feel left out and wonder why everyone else is passing them by. It seems like everyone else got the life they wanted whether it’s traveling, having a family, or creating their dream job. They feel like they missed out.

For a lot of my clients, other people comment that they are so together and organized. Inside, it could not feel further from the truth. That voice in their head is constantly giving them hell: “You should have done….You shouldn’t have said…..You should be further along by now…..” They wish it would just shut up. Yes, they have done all the things to get them to a place that is considered successful. They went to school and got a decent job. They typically like their work but it also causes a lot of stress. And those things don’t seem to hold the weight that society promised they would. Sometimes they wonder if it was worth the soul-crushing student debt to live in a tiny apartment and spend most of their waking hours at work. The clients I see are often in search of deeper meaning, more connection, and better relationships. They find that they have created these other parts of their lives, but that relationships seem to be the one place they really struggle. They worry that they will never find the person that they were meant to be with. Or that they had that person and they lost them. Some are in relationships and questioning if it’s the right fit.

The people I work with have figured out the formula to get what things done in most areas of their lives: hard work=results. Want good grades? Study and go to class. Want a promotion? Stand out by taking initiative and being dependable. The formula worked in school and now it’s working in their careers. Relationships are like a test they forgot to study for. The formula they know and trust no longer works. It seems like in relationships, hard work=heartbreak. The more they put themselves out there, the harder they fall and they can’t seem to figure out why. They are sick of putting themselves out there over and over again in the seemingly endless search for a decent partner. Swiping right on a dating app only to be repeatedly disappointed is not exactly what they pictured for themselves.

When working with me, my clients begin to see patterns and roles in their lives that no longer serve them. They learn to trust themselves and give themselves permission to let go of those things. Clarity and confidence increase and they are more able to go after what they are truly passionate about. They figure out what has been keeping them from the satisfying life they crave. And they have the confidence to go after it.

I’d love to help you do the same. Going for what you want can be scary but you deserve to wake up each day living a life you love. Creating a fulfilling life, both personally and professionally, is not out of reach. You don’t have to feel stuck anymore. Reach out to me today and let’s get started toward the life you’ve always wanted.